All the most ancient mystic traditions agree that, above all else, we have to find out who we really are before we can be really happy. Yet most of us spend our lives playing a role, that is not who we really are. We start life as a son or a daughter, then become a lover or a spouse, then a father or mother, an employee or an employer, a grandfather or grandmother and so on. Whenever we do this, the rewards we get go to the role we play instead of who we really are. Our true selves feel starved and neglected, as indeed they are for we have been looking for our fulfilment in life in the wrong place. This does not mean that we need to change our jobs or stop being a spouse or a parent or whatever. When we have found our true identity, everything we do becomes an expression of who we are.

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